"Who defines the way life is supposed to look anyway? You're accepting society's/someone else's aspirations when you think your life should look like anyone else's. The penalty of a unique path is that you have to avoid comparisons."
When you graduate high school, you are supposed to go to college. After college you are supposed to find a full-time, high paying job. After you get the job, you are supposed to fall in love. You get the ring, the house, work on having kids and living a fulfilling life full of vacations, holidays and building memories. That is how we are "supposed" to live our life right? That is how society portrays the way that life is "supposed" to be with movies, books, television, music. Even a thirty second television commercial can give you all the details that you are "supposed" to do, but what if you haven't reached those goals? What if you haven't found the job, the love, the happiness you are "supposed" to have in your life? The real question is, why do we feel like we have to live up to these standards and compare our lives to these every single day?
It is difficult when you are in a position that you don't want to be in, but that doesn't mean that you have to live up to societies standards of what you are "supposed" to do. Whether it be single and not being able to find someone, working part-time and looking for full-time or something as simple as looking for happiness and not being able to find it, being in position that you can not find a way doesn't mean that you should be settling on living a particular way of life just because you think that is the way you are supposed to live it. You can't just sit back and wait for life to happen, hoping that you will get a sign. You can't just stop living and hope that everything will fall into place, that everything will just work. The first thing you have to do is be happy with yourself. You can not make these changes to your life without being able to be happy with the person that you are. As soon as you start to feel the happiness within yourself, things start to fall into place. Simply feeling happy is what you need to survive in this world.
The words at the beginning of this blog I took from a dear friend this week that was giving me guidance and helping me to stay in the right direction. I have never taken the "easy" path in life. I never have wanted to work the normal 9-5 job, get married and have a family in the order that we are "supposed" to, but now that I have reached that age in my life where everyone in my life is getting married, having kids and have full-time jobs, I start to question the way that I live my life. I had the full-time job, I had the guy, I settled on the life that I thought I was "supposed" to have, but after having it, I didn't want it. That was not the life for me, so what did I do? I changed it. Within the last two months, I quit my full-time job, quit my guy and made changes to my life that I needed to start making to make myself happy. By no means am I saying that everyone needs to make the drastic changes that I have made to make yourself happy or that this path has been easy by any means, but no one needs to settle on a way of life that you have seen in a movie. You do not have to live to the standards that everyone expects of you, but make your own path. You have to make yourself happy and do what is right for you.
Like Lucille Ball once said, "Love yourself first and everything else will fall in line.."
Repeat Song of the Week:
"Last Goodbye" - Kesha. For the longest time I resisted Kesha's music, thinking that she was another club artist and just making music because she can. I recently started watching her television show and saw that she writes all of her music, so I listened to her music a little closer. Reading her lyrics to this song, changed my opinion of her completely. Even if you don't listen to the lyrics of this song, just check out the lyrics and you will see a good song.
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